Bitter mix of hostility in relationships

BECAUSE of the constant evolution currently impacting the global environment coupled with ongoing socio-economic pressures, tolerance levels are continuously waning, paving the way for incidents of hostility, anger and other negative acts towards humankind.

Hostility has become quite prevalent, as many of my clients have expressed their concern, as well as the extent to which their self-esteem is dampened as a result of hostile triggers.

Despite the odds, all of us need to pay attention to our relationships and ensure that all potential bitterness and unnecessary distractions are removed and/or avoided.

Hostility involves the display of high levels of antagonism which cause one to treat their partner as an enemy.

These are further fuelled by negative thoughts which in many instances, result in regrettable statements and comments, aimed at attacking another with intent to inflict psychological hurt.

“Must haves” in relationships include compromise and the constant practice of agreeing to disagree.

Remember after the storm, both parties will again revert to loving each other, eating with each other, and all the other sweet things that you do as a couple.

Therefore, including hostility as an ingredient in your relationship pot should be avoided as much as possible.

In-depth and ongoing communication from the start of a relationship is critical to ensuring that respect is maintained at every level, as hostile behavioural patterns can damage the very foundation upon which the relationship was developed.

Hostility, another bitter emotional pill, should never be swallowed by partners in a relationship as it opens up entry for mistrust and negativity.

The presence of hostility in communication is a sign of insecurity and disrespect. If your partner continues to communicate and connect through hostile means, then the affected victim needs to communicate these feelings to his/her partner in an attempt to identify solutions. Remember that silence is not a solution.

Avoiding hostility in relationships is possible through some simple steps.

Start by re-enacting love and care into your relationship, thereby creating a renewed environment within which you and your partner can enjoy a comfortable co-existence.

If you have been hurting your partner through hostility, change now! Hostility leads to anger and anger can lead to fatality if not properly managed. If you have been criticising your partner, then desist immediately, and instead keep your communication wheel turning.

Occasionally perform unexpected acts of kindness for your partner which is an excellent start to healing. Think and act for two instead of one. Whilst sharing your needs, dislikes and likes, attempt to discover the same of your partner; it shows that you care and you are willing to do what is necessary in making your relationship and/or marriage work.

Let your relationship slogan be treat others as you would like to be treated! To obtain a copy of the book With Women in Mind call 283-0318 or 795- 9531.

Sandrine Rattan is a communications/ branding consultant, author and president of the International Women’s Resource Network (IWRN), thecorporatesuitett@ gmail.com or intlwomensresourcenetwork@ gmail.com