HOW COULD SHE!

So having become a professional lurker, there are quite a few pages that I subscribe to that usually either have me grabbing for my popcorn or tea and occasionally both! One of these pages is your not-so typical advice column that dishes out the most honest, realest and borderline scandalous responses, but as tough as the advice may be it is always spot on!

This week a reader wrote in asking for some guidance in how to deal with a friend who ruined her engagement surprise. It seemed the boyfriend confided in the BFF to help plan his “surprise” proposal, turns out said BFF must have missed the key word in that sentence – cough “surprise” cough – because not only did she buss the mark to her friend, but she also threw in a sneak peek of the ring.Needless to say, the Girlfriends were not impressed.
They sound off savagely below.

Staci: She mixed with heartless or what?? Not a friend move at all.

Martie: Oh hell no. X that “friend” one time, cause you’re NOT a friend!

Staci: She is a hater. How u go do your fren dat?

Staci: Agreed she go be moved to ex friend category after that stunt.

Martie: That’s jealousy.

Chanelle: Very poor conduct indeed

Ronz: Agreed! That is toots.

Rors: No invitation to the wedding. Annnnnd! I tellin your mother what u do.

Katherine: That def not a friend, it’s jealousy hence spoiling it.

Rors: Exactly! An ugly colour on any bridesmaid

Katherine: I would tell my man too so he could cuss her out as well, I mean, he ain’t tell you it’s a SURPRISE?!? Martie: There’s no way she could salvage herself after that.

Katherine: And don’t tell me no sh*t about u wanted me to be prepared for the moment.

Martie: Prepared my tail.

Ronz: None! What kinda awful person do you need to be to spoil someone’s proposal like that? Martie: You’re NOT supposed to be prepared.

That’s why he wanted to surprise you!

Katherine: Exactly.

Chanelle: She prolly ugly!

Rors: Would anyone else here have slapped her when she told? I think I would!

Martie: LOL...ok I think we all agree on this one.

This was easy.

Katherine: Bet no one ruined the surprise slap for her blabbing tail.

Martie: ALLYUH dat girl woulda run if this entire group was coming at her

Ronz: What a wicked thoughtless person.

Chanelle: I bet that same ‘real good’ fren wouldn’t tell her she getting horn if she knew though.

Katherine: Cause she would be the one the man horning with! Or she prob tried to get the man and he brace her so she spoil the proposal.

Rors: I feel yuh call ittt there.

Martie: She must be does eat Scarlet Ibis, heartless!

Chanelle: Omggg allyuh I eating soup!! That does burn when you spit it out all over yourself, hahahahahaah.

Rors: I’m seeing feathers in some ugly woman teeth right now!! Lol, y’all play too much in dis chat!

Staci: I leave the chat for a few minutes and this is the lackaray going on in here! Remind me not to get on allyuh bad side eh.

Now even better than the posts from the blogs I follow, the comments section is what actually keeps me going back! Of course, I returned to the original post to check out the comments especially seeing how heated and angry the Girlfriends reacted. Generally, most of the commenters were equally incensed and appalled at the behaviour of the so-called friend and her lack of cover for her mouth. But one of the comments stood out to me, as her opinion was in stark contrast to the status quo. Her perspective was one of a best friend who couldn’t keep the secret because of her overwhelming excitement and they are accustomed sharing secrets with each other…I tried to present this counter argument to the Girlfriends… needless to say they weren’t having it!

Katherine: This person also ruins surprises Rors: Ent. What wrong with them?!?

Chanelle: *spits out soup...A-gain!* Martie: I’m with you on that one Rors…and Chanelle you need to eat with an apron, not a bib!

Rors: Generally, you should just avoid eating while reading messages from this group.

Chanelle: I think so too oui, smh. This group is a health and safety hazard.

Ronz: Solid advice there Rors! Now I’m all for giving people the benefit of the doubt but not in this situation. It’s not like de friend slip a random piece of info. She sit and tell de girl outright and even show her the ring! Nah man!

Niks: Oh lord 189 unread messages! Ah ‘fraid to scroll up.

Staci: Trust me Niks you wanna read up, just don’t eat soup while reading, k… Martie: I feel she just shouldn’t eat.

Chanelle: Once is not soup or ibis yuh good.

Martie: Or Ibis Soup! The Girlfriends is a group of 15 women between the ages of 26 - 45 who are willing to give an unadulterated look into their own experiences. Some names have been changed for privacy.