Acting in desperation

Hopelessness, despair, distress, pain and defeatism are some of the more common forms of influence of desperation for many. Life today is extremely challenging, and as I have said repeatedly lack of strong coping mechanisms and personal resilience, usually result in poor decision-making and sometimes fatality depending on the extent of the situation.

Wisdom offers each of us a particular level of IQ that allows us to learn from the experiences of others, but some of my clients have expressed regret in making decisions out of desperation to satisfy some unfortunate demands that confronted them at unguarded moments.

They may have been criticised and/or ostracised, but as the old saying goes “who is in the kitchen feels the heat.” Though our society is gravely affected by various types of hostility, we must find a way to continue to be either our brother’s or sister’s keeper which would minimise desperate occurrences.

When one engages in actions out of desperation, the outcome of such actions at times, can be extremely painful, and as some have indicated, the pain is not worthy of repeating; therefore it is best to include some ammunition tools in your daily life pot to ensure that you are always prepared to deal with challenges spontaneously and effectively. Start by accepting life for what it is, let go of the past, and have faith in yourself and your future.

Remove the lenses of fear which can blind you if you allow them to.

Journalling is an incredible tool that strengthens your life’s journey through the use of positive quotes and reminders; seek to engrave short positive messages and quotes on items used on a daily basis such as your coffee mug, your dinner plate, your cutlery and even your blanket. I can assure you that this concept is extremely powerful as you are constantly reminded of your worth as a wholesome human being, and you are also empowered in becoming the best that you can be. Journalling is also an excellent support system in ensuring consistency in renewed efforts; you also need to monitor your progress, self-reflect and learn from past mistakes.

Avoid creating relationships whether intimate or otherwise that contain toxins sufficient to poison your psyche and would ultimately prevent you from moving forward. Also when your life is transitioning, it is important to maintain a circle of individuals including close family members and friends willing to offer support and assistance to ensure that your navigation is successful.

Creating a space and pause between a chaotic environment and your own personal territory is critical to one’s survival; if this is not done, commitments would not be fulfilled, and ultimately goals remain unachieved.

Sandrine Rattan is a communications/ branding consultant, author and president of the International Women’s Resource Network (IWRN) Contact: thecorporatesuitett@ gmail.com or intlwomensresourcenetwork@ gmail.com