I would do anything for love, but I won’t do THAT…”

Some women took to the Internet to bash her for staying, labelling her a gold digger, an opportunist etc for taking public “humiliation” and staying with him. Others defended her, saying we don’t know the intricacies and “allowances” either of them permit within their relationship, so we should hush we hating, jealous a$% and leave de girl and she man alone. For her, cheating obviously isn’t a deal breaker, especially if it precedes a fabulous, 5-star Bora Bora getaway.

Which got me to wondering, what are the deal breakers for you in a relationship? What’s your “THAT” in the phrase “I would do anything for love but I won’t do THAT”...the Girlfriends sound off below.

Martie: Well I think a horn, is the “THAT” many women end their relationship for, while others ride the wave, go through the hurt and stay.

Kimba: My THAT would be if he got someone else pregnant.

Ronz: Gotta love social media. It’s easy to sit comfortably at home or wherever and toss out whatever opinion about why she stays when plenty of women stay with a cheating man, most of whom don’t have nearly half as much to offer as Mr Olympic record holder.

Lis: Hmm, my THAT, if he love man more than me…

Ronz: Worse than horn though, would be to discover your man is a child molester, rapist, serial killer, etc. Not a chance in hell that I would stay with a man after finding out something like that. And then, of course, licks. I eh takin’ none! There is no “heat of the moment”, “it will never happen again”, “baby I’m so sorry” that would ever keep me in that relationship. I may never see the first slap coming but I sure won’t be around for a second one.

Kimba: Question tho. The topic being discussed is “I would do anything for love” but is Kasi (Bolt’s gf) doing that for love or for the benefits?

Martie: I agree, you not getting to slap/hit/ degrade me past that first time. Thankfully I’ve never experienced any, and Kimba that we wouldn’t know, only Kasi would, all we could do is speculate.

Kimba: Licks should be a “given” deal breaker I think.

Staci: I’m not saying she’s a gold digger but as Martie say, woman does take horn and stay for FREE so her perks clearly outweigh the cons. I know I is a woman ain’t taking no horn. As noble as the women that take horn, forgive and stay are, I’m just not one of them. Especially if I getting horn with a dude...

Martie: Ah dude? YUCK!!!

Staci: I know this may be controversial but to me a man cannot be bisexual. From the time you are (having sex with another man), you are gay. Women to me are the only sex that can be so _ uid.

Kimba: Agreed.

Martie: I AGREE!!!

Ronz: A man interested in sex with another man is gay. And even if I could believe that he’s bi, I didn’t sign up for that type of arrangement.

Martie: Yeah. I’m sorry, if you sleep with another man, fuhget dat.

Staci: I have had this discussion with my gay friends too and they agree. A man saying he “bi” is just still in the closet and not ready to admit it to even himself fully.

Martie: I had a friend who got chlamydia.

Long story short, her husband accused her of going outside the marriage and when the mark buss, he was the one who gave it to her.

Staci: I not staying after you give me an STD… that’s also a THAT.

Ronz: And that’s the real scary part about horn eh, never mind the emotional hurt or feeling betrayed.

Is de ACTUAL bodily harm you can do me with all the STDs out there.

Mel: Noooo licks. I doh care how it play, I cannot love you after that.

Katherine: Things I won’t put up with uhmmm...take long term horn, take outside child, take licks, no gayness, and don’t spend out all our money on get rich schemes.

Elli: Physical abuse is where I draw the line. I ain’t loving no man who beating me.

Tamz: I’ll take a horn, a one shot kinda thing...

I hope he never hears I said that eh! Yes, I’ll be hurt but at the end of the day I probably won’t leave, but to carry on a relationship with somebody else is totally different. The ‘care’ hurts more and well to hit me is out of the question. I may not be able to fight back but I’ll go down fighting back if it comes to that.

I’m not living in your poor house because ‘I love you’ either. Oh gosh...No running water? No electricity? No food and on top of that, bats? Nope not doing it.

Rors: My son’s dad held me up with a gun outside Zen one night years ago and telling me I not allowed to go out. I tell him shoot me in my back and walk off. Of course I was tremblinnnnnn eh but I made it inside in one piece. Eventually we came to the point in our interaction where we recognized how toxic the situation was, and the need to move on for better. As much as I am a romantic I not bout that “anything for love” life, for GOOD love yes, not blind dotish love.

The Girlfriends is a group of 15 women between the ages of 26 - 45 who are willing to give an unadulterated look into their own experiences.

Some names have been changed for privacy.