The Girlfriends – GPS Your Boundaries!

Ronz: That is some scary, psycho crap!

Kimba: The thing is he keeps showing up casually all over de place and just today I told her “isn’t it amazing how your paths keep crossing” thinking it was a real coincidence!

Ronz: She’d have never known until he showed up to murder her.

Mel: Even if he wants her back, bad way to do it.

Kimba: Yes. He does, but he has also used threatening language with her since they broke up.

Mel: So instead he wants to bully her into submission?

Kimba: She made a report to the police.

Mel: Why do men feel being in love is submission and ownership?

Ronz: I wonder what story did he give the man who installed the GPS?

Kimba: Padna ting I’m sure! And this is after a year of practically ignoring the girl eh, like IGNORE. Like there was no relationship, barely talking, seeing her, no spending time, nada!

Ronz: I’m so glad she discovered it. Has she told him she found it?

Kimba: Not yet, she’s still seething. Studying her best course of action. She wanna give it to a truck driver who running between here and Point Lisas!

Staci: Nah she should give a police padna. That way, when he show up somewhere at two in de morning he go get exactly what he looking for.

Ronz: I’m so sick of being nice and thinking men need help and have them turn around to be complety deceitful.

Kimba: My God the level of attention he’s now giving, suddenly he have time eh? Wey he was the last year???

Mel: Men only learn how to behave when you leave dem or when other men on the scene.

Katherine: Kimba that’s total madness! He couldn’t have had good intentions with that GPS, it’s scary the lengths that he would go. Judging from this he clearly doesn’t have limits.

Martie: Funny enough this isn’t the first GPS situation I’ve heard of though! Question Girlfriends, y’all think he was of “sound mind” before? Or he just turn psycho now that they done?

Kimba: Nah I feel he was always so, she just didn’t want to see it.

Martie: Tadaaaaaaaa. First sign of crazy behaviour, leave him dey! Unfortunately, some women can’t deal with being alone so they take anything they could get and say “I’ll take the good with the bad.”

Katherine: Agreed. This isn’t new behaviour.

Kimba: She loved him though I guess that’s why she stayed so long, not because she was afraid of being alone but because love sometimes, freezes you.

Katherine: She probably hoped that her love would change him. That he would learn to love her right.

Martie: Yeah, she saw it before but love blinds you and you make excuses and say “no one is perfect” and you take the good and the bad. Sadly, some women cannot identify the different types and extremes of the “bad”.

Kimba: That’s it right dey! But what’s also killing me is what did he really expect of her? He expect a woman to be in a non-existent / one-sided relationship forever?

Chinelle: Ego is a hell of a thing eh, now is when he decides he wants to make an effort!

Kimba: She has a new man btw, a new YOUNGER man!

Staci: Girl good ting she find the GPS and he ain’t find her with said new younger man cause it may have been something else we discussing here.

Kimba: I think she was trying to be kind by still talking to him etc. She says she does not hate him and if he wants to go to counseling she will to help him get over it.

Ronz: I hope she’s learned that being nice is not an option with this man.

Martie: Counseling is for couples. We’re not a couple anymore. If you want help for yourself, you go get it!

Kimba: She also thinking that being nice will diffuse him but I think that that is dangerous.

Staci: I can’t believe people does be so desperate, dis is serious ting!

Martie: It is. And many women may need to be aware cause many don’t have a clue. Sadly, we will see him with another girl down the road, and nobody will say anything to warn this new girl how crazy this man could be.

Staci: Exactly!!! That’s how these men stay getting women!

Kimba: But when GPS is being installed aren’t you required to have proof that the vehicle is yours?

Staci: I would imagine but if his friend own the place or working there it easy to not have to prove anything.

Kimba: So this “padna’s club” is where men help other men to do this kinda psycho crap?!

Martie: Not necessarily a man’s club eh, his friend may be none the wiser.

Ronz: Always remember, men are very driven by action and often disregard the words coming out of our mouths. If she’s giving him any sort of kindness, he go take that as a sign that he may still have a chance and can get away with his behavior.

Mel: It is illegal. End of text. Just like hitting her. Just like rape. No excuses. Some men feel that have an excuse to do anything!

Some Girlfriends on Facebook also weighed in with their own experiences with men who crossed the cyber boundaries with them.

Giz: She better check her phone with that madman. I had an associate whose significant other installed some app that was tracking all text messages to and from the phone!!

Roshni: My ex hacked my phone and can track my location, probably still to this day. I’m not afraid of him but like all fools he admitted it and I saved the conversation for future in case I need to use it.

Francine: Girl I used to think those kinds of crazies only existed in Lifetime movies until I encountered on of my own. A guy who was dating me insisted I use his car while he was away. I used it to do grocery shopping but decided against driving it to work. Eh heh! Homeboy calls me 11am Monday morning to ask why I didn’t drive to work. Apparently while saying his morning prayers the Lord sent a vision of the car parked outside Massy stores, then parked in my garage. He said I should not be alarmed cause his ability to see visions was a gift he received from the Holy Spirit when he did confirmation.