The unfortunate door of relationships

Women are continuously complaining of developing intimate relationships which at the beginning felt like a great love journey but then boom, like a thief in the night, they wake up and realise that their partner has blocked them off from all communication platforms.

At this time, the IWRN is providing counselling to at least five women who have been struggling to come to terms with such a fate. Understanding this door-like approach used in treating with your partner, first requires a deep understanding of the psyche of men and also women. When this is done, understanding how each gender thinks in relation to emotions becomes easier.

Healthy co-existence starts from a place of treating people similar to how you would like to be treated..and therefore engaging in immature behaviours leaves much to be desired in terms of your own personality and primary socialisation. Though I started this feature expressing concerns raised by women, men have also shared similar experiences. I would again point out, as I have done in previous features, a relationship is not a toy and neither is a human being, and therefore, people need to pay attention to their actions and at the same time be sensitive.

What is becoming more and more obvious is that both men and women continuously accept behaviour and attitudes that are less than acceptable from each other in relationships, and this unfortunate acceptance, is the start of larger problems.

Because insufficient time is spent in knowing and understanding each other, when abusive behaviour hits, it becomes an acceptable norm as the person at the receiving end never red-flagged the occurrence.

The sudden blocking of partners from all communication platforms can severely affect their mental state, some can become suicidal because, as far as they are aware, they have not offended you, and therefore are not deserving of such treatment.

Instead, engage in healthy conversations to effectively treat with and discuss any concerns or issues which may be affecting you and ultimately the relationship which you took time to invest in.

This, of course, would also improve your self-esteem and personal growth.

Call the IWRN for info on upcoming sessions on Excellence in Intonation.

Sandrine Rattan is a communications branding consultant, author and president of the International Women’s Resource Network (IWRN) Contact: thecorporatesuitett@ gmail.com or intlwomensresourcenetwork@ gmail.com or contact 283-0318.