The decision making process… never an easy one

The following was written for a friend who is deciding what he really wants. Every one has risky decisions to make in life. As a matter of fact every decision is a risky one. I guess prayer for guidance and protection is the only thing that will ensure we don’t get hurt or that we don’t hurt anyone in the decision making process.

Can you say that there was at least one point in your life when you were genuinely happy? Can you say at that point you felt complete despite everything else? Well if you can, then I firmly believe you have realised the true beauty that life can be. Sometimes people come into our lives and have such a great impact on us. Out of nowhere they just come breaking down all the walls you’ve established and making such positive changes in your life. Sometimes it takes another person to bring you genuine and complete happiness. Sometimes it feels as if they are God sent. Well maybe they are.

What is important though, is at times like this we remember who we are and always struggle to be that person. Although there may be changes in our lives and positive ones at that, we should make those changes because we want them for ourselves, not because that is what someone else wants. It is important that we realise who we really are in life and it is important that other people accept us for that first. Fine if they can see potential in you and see that certain changes will bring positive results but if they do not and they cannot accept you for who you are then forget about them, their loss! Please do not cling to a person who keeps putting you down and crushing you, everyone deserves better than that.

When people come into our lives and we want to make positive changes for them we must ensure that we are happy with the changes we want to make and that we can live with those changes. I have always wondered why we need people to make us change. Is it that we can’t do it ourselves and need the encouragement? Or is it that we need a reason to change? Why do we wait on people to make us want what is good for us? If you know something will make you happy, something that does not land you in legal trouble, that is, then I say go for it. People are always afraid to show what they really feel.

They are scared to say “I love you” and sometimes even ashamed to hug one another and show affection. Why is it? Is it fear of being hurt or rejected? Well I’ll tell you this. You have only one life to live and if showing one person you love and care for him/her will make you happy then go ahead and make yourself happy…it’s worth the risk! I remember my grandfather telling me that I have to make myself happy because no one else will do it for me. Sometimes we have to do what makes us happy, even if it’s just for a moment. Another thing, never put that person before your source. Without your source life is empty and worth nothing. My perception is when you put someone, a human being or anything for that matter before God, he takes that away from you. He must come first.

Prayer is important at tough times like this. Decision making times require prayer…a lot of it. Always remember that you are important too. The other person is important to you but you should be important to you as well. Ensure that you are genuinely happy and that you will be in the long term. Nothing worthwhile in life is easy and decisions are all a part of life, but remember that you have to live with the decisions you make. It requires a lot of thought and again a lot of prayer.