Wendy’s Player of the Month seeks Pro Bowl glory

Perry said had it not been for a number of injuries including a broken leg suffered by last season’s top scorer Makesi Lewis, they could have done a lot better, especially in the league.

Polcie started the 2016-2017 season with a 5-1 drubbing of Ma Pau Stars.

Last week the Lawmen also showcased their prowess with a 9-0 mauling of Point Fortin Civic to qualify for the season- ending Digicel Pro Bowl knockout tournament.

Now the boys in blue are one step further in their final title chase of the season and will face Pro Bowl holders Defence Force from 6 pm today at the Ato Boldon Stadium, Couva in the semi-finals after a 3-2 penalty win over W Connection following a 1-1 draw on Wednesday night. It was the first win over the Savonetta Boys for Police since coach Richard Hood took over in 2012.

“We prepared for this (win over Connection),” said Perry, as he tried to calm himself during a party-like atmosphere after the win. “And, we are going forward with everything for this tournament, this trophy.” Perry’s seven goals in five appearances during January didn’t go unnoticed – picking up the Wendy’s Player of the Month – however it wasn’t enough to help his side avoid a bottom-half finish in the just concluded Digicel Pro League.

Perry, who was sidelined through injury for half the season, finished with nine league goals – three behind 2016-17 league leading scorer Akeem Roach (12) of Club Sando, but the Lawmen’s forward’s strike rate stood above the rest.

“The most important thing was to give the coach my best effort because he really worked hard with us despite the challenges,” Perry said.

“We had to keep rotating and filling different positions because of injuries. It was hard a lot of times for the team to settle into the way we can really play. It also affected the fitness of our team.

“(Our finish in the bottom half in the league) is really bad because we could have done better had it not been for so many injuries (throughout) the season.” Hood, who echoed Perry’s views, said, “We recognise that we have not done as well as we should have this season, and we want to win this (Pro Bowl).

This would make up for the disappointment in the league, so we want this Cup. We are going after it.

“Connection, of course, was the biggest hurdle mentally because we haven’t beaten them before. It was a tremendous effort from our guys. We knew the strengths of Connection, and we also know their weaknesses and how we could hurt them. I think you would have seen me running on the field celebrating (when we equalised late) because I thought we had our chances all along and finally it did happen.” Hood admitted it was nerve-racking during the penalty kicks.

“It was good to finally get over that hurdle,” he said. “I hate penalties—we do very well on the practice field but when it’s on the pressures of the occasion, we tend to choke.” Central FC will take on Club Sando in semi-final one of the Digicel Pro Bowl from 4 pm at the Ato Boldon Stadium today, for a place in the final on February 19.

25 football clubs receive licence

TTFA president David John-Williams promised to introduce the Club Licensing programme into the local game roughly a year ago and on Thursday evening he was proudly congratulating ten TT Pro League clubs and 15 Super League clubs upon receiving their certificates following the opening phase of the programme. This is among some of the development programmes the TTFA has introduced in recent times including the FIFA Solidarity and Compensation Training Workshop for local clubs, the CONCACAF Goalkeeping Course, Futsal Referees Course and the TTFA/Dutch Instructors and Coaching courses among others.

Moving clubs into the process of falling into line with both FIFA and CONCACAF guidelines has been the objective.

John-Williams said the Club Licensing Programme was introduced to assist all local clubs and while the Pro League and Super League clubs were among the first set to benefit from the programme, others clubs in the six local regional associations will be targeted in 2017.

The advancement of club football through the club licensing programme is directly related to key performance indicators within the areas of infrastructure, sporting, administration, finance, legal and social responsibility.

Among the steps in the programme that local clubs are requested to complete include: -Submitting the four on-line forms to CONCACAF -Confirming the field of play for home matches -Confirming the Head Coach for the 1st Team -Confirming General Manager, finance Officer, Marketing Officer,, Media Officer -Budget for the current season -Signing the Legal Declaration -Clubs Control Mechanism/ Ownership Structure -Club’s Statutes/Constitution FC Santa Rosa president Keith Look Loy said at the presentation ceremony that he felt it was a good step for local clubs and he encouraged others to become compliant.

The following clubs received their club licensing certificate for the season 2017: TT Pro League – Caledonia AIA, Central FC, Club Sando, Defence Force, Mau Pau Stars, Point Fortin Civic Centre, Police FC, St.

Ann’s Rangers, San Juan Jabloteh, W Connection FC.

Super League – Barrackpore United, Bethel United, Club Sando FC, Cunupia FC, Defence Force FC, FC Santa Rosa, Guaya United, Marabella Family Crisis Centre, Matura Reunited FC, 1976 Phoenix, Police FC, Queen’s Park Cricket Club, University of Trinidad & Tobago, WASA FC, Youth

Dick hits first Southern Sports century

He smashed 103 in Barrackpore Angels’ 179 for six wickets in reply to Tarouba Sports who were bowled out for 174 for a comfortable four-wicket victory in their Premier Division match.

Also hitting a century on opening day was Ryan Williams who reached 101 in Happy Hits’ 211 for four, as they cruised to a six-wicket victory over Spoilers Sports who were bowled out for 207 Batsmen did not take all the honours, however, as Junior Abdool took all five wickets for 28 runs when when Green Arrows were restricted to 169 for five.

But his team Smashers were routed for 145. Rajeev Jailalsingh also grabbed a five-wicket haul for Happy Hits in their victory.

Champions Metronomes made a winning start to their season when they beat Massahood by a comprehensive eight wickets.

SUMMARISED SCORES: Premier Division: TAROUBA SPORTS 174 – Surindra Dookie 53, Shiva Dookie 38, Steffon Rojan 3/43 Nicholas Boochoon 2/27 vs BARRACKPORE ANGELS 179/6 – Irwin Dick 103, Aziz Mahabir 2/30, Romel Rampersad 2/29. BARRACKPORE ANGELS won by four wickets.

SPOILERS SPORTS 201 – Roger Boodoo 60, RonaldB Boodoo 38, Rajeev Jailalsingh 5/36, Imtiaz Esahak 3/32 vs HAPPY HITS 211/4 – Ryan Williams 101, Imtiaz Esahak 41.

HAPPY HITS won by six wickets.

VALLEY BOYS 220/8 – Shannon Seaboo 53, Steve Sankar 50, Vedesh Singh 31, Damraj Singh 2/36 vs UPRISING 172 – Goutam Mahabirsingh 83, Rennie Jangeesingh 40, A Gangoo 4/34, Shannon Seaboo 3/23. VALLEY BOYS won by 48 runs.

BUENTENTO 110 – Denzil 2/10 vs REFORM 111/2 – Karlvin Kissoon 52, Shezan Ali 37.

REFORM won by eight wickets.

JOHN PETER RD SPORTS 172/6 – Ramesh Bajnath 77, Christopher Ramsaroop 38 vs SUPER HARD HITTERS 105 – V Bunsee 44, N Cingh 35. JOHN PETER RD won by 67 runs.

SURVIVORS 174/8 – V Raghunanan 56 A Roopnarine 31 vs RENOWN 179/6 – Rakesh Bissessar 41. RENOWN won by four wickets.

MASSAHOOD 230/8 – Nicholas Ramdass 83, Vicky Oudit 37, Ijaz Ali 30 vs METRONOMES 232/2 – Vikash Ramsawak 78, Naresh Narine 53 Devon Balram 53, Peter McFarlane 32, Satesh Rampersad 2/27.

METRONOMES won by eight wickets.

X-MEN SPORTS 155/8 – Dayne Lall 3/35, Kevin Harracksingh 2/19 vs MANOHAR TRACE 64 – Roopnarine Rampersad 3/15, Harricharamn Kissoon 3/17. X-MEN won by 91 runs.

RELATED 131 – Samuel Jogee 41, Nicholas Ramjit 3/26, M Partapsingh 2/14 vs WOODLAND 135/5 – Keon Celestine 72, , Alvin Ramkhelawan 2/10. WOODLAND won by five wickets.

Belcon, Rajah lift Merry Boys to 318

Batting first, Merry Boys were indebted to their long-standing opener who stroked seven fours and three sixes in a knock of 98 that came off 124 balls. Solid contributions from Isaiah Rajah 73 and Lincoln Roberts (60 not out) lifted the former champions to 318 all out against the current holders. Javon Searles was the pick of the Queen’s Park bowlers with five wickets for 58 runs while medium pacer Kevon Cooper (2/57) and spinner Yannic Cariah (2/101) were also among the wickets. Cariah despite his pair of scalps, would not be happy with his returns, going for more than five runs an over from his 18 delivered.

In reply, Queen’s Park were 32 without loss at the close of play with captain Justin Guillen (11) and Marlon Barclay (16) at the crease.

At Pierre Road Recreation Ground, Alescon Comets piled on the runs against Powergen with ex-West Indies batsman Kirk Edwards smashing 156 off 179 balls.

Edwards lashed 11 fours and six sixes as Comets closed the day’s play on a massive 341 for eight. Andy Gobin (57), Kieron Joseph (33) and Idrees Mohammed (34) chipped in as well.

Left-arm orthodox Kavesh Kantasingh (2/102), and Ansil Bhagan (2/95) were among the wickets.

Other Scores; VICTORIA 269/7 (Garey Mathurin 63 not out, Keddy Lesporis 41, Marcell Jones 36, Keron Kanhai 34, Yannick Ottley 2/29, Jyd Goolie 2/34) vs CLARKE ROAD UNITED.

TABLELAND 133 all out (Keaton Mahabir 38, Al Small 18, Shazam Babwah 5/60, Steven Shaddickl 3/36) and 6/0 vs CENTRAL SPORTS 182 all out (Jahron Alfred 78, Kissoondath Magram 41 not out, Negus Carthy 4/60, Daniel St Clair 3/18)

TT cyclist Paul for Swiss training camp

He was invited once again by the UCI to the World Cycling Centre to help continue to work to improve his level of skills in this high level track training programme.

Paul was invited by the UCI late last year as they recognised his potential when he made his debut in obtaining a gold medal in the Sprint event at the Junior Pan Am Championship held in Trinidad in August 2016.

During his training in Switzerland in November 2016, he captured gold in the Elite Men match sprint, in the Flying 200 a new personal best time of 10.350 seconds, the fastest time by a Junior in TT, and also bettered this time in France with an effort of 10.276 on a 200-metre track. The TTOC (TT Olympic Committee) awarded Paul the Junior Sportsman of the Year for 2016. He has been training since his return in December at the National Cycling Centre in Balmain, Couva under the watch of coach Anthony Sellier and club support Team Breakaway CC.

Brazil win UANA Cup

Both finalists fought tirelessly in the lowest scoring but most competitive game of the tournament with neither leading by more than two goals throughout the match. Canada opened the scoring but the South Americans, who were beaten 8-4 by Canada earlier in the tournament, took control of the match and held their opponents at bay to eke out the win.

Brazil had on Friday night defeated Argentina 11-6 in the semifinal while Canada had pummelled Trinidad and Tobago 20-1 to advance to the final.

Leon Daniel managed to get on the score-sheet for TT in that defeat.

In yesterday’s earlier game to determine third/fourth placings, hosts Trinidad and Tobago took on Argentina in another rough outing. Argentina, unsurprisingly, were comfortable winners 20-3 after getting past TT 19-2 in the round robin phase of the Cup. Goals for the twin island republic yesterday were scored by captain Kris Thomas, in the first quarter, followed by Leon Daniel and Russell Ferreira copping one each in the fourth.

Speaking to Newsday after the tournament was head coach of TT, Andrew Francis, who summed up his players’ performance throughout the Cup.

“Even though we had a nervous start to the tournament and had first game jitters, the (guys) lacked aggression and determination towards the battle.

However, while that was a disappointing aspect, we needed to restructure, recognise our mistakes and work towards improving on our game,” he said.

Francis noted though, “the guys responded magnificently to the changes and the tasks which were handed to them and there was a significant improvement especially in defence and their movement off the ball (offensively and defensively).” Francis expressed his enthusiasm towards working with the current squad and other foreign- based players, as they prepare for the upcoming CCCAN Games scheduled in June at the same venue.

UANA 2017 Top Awards: Best Goalie – Solvodan Soro (Brazil) Top Scorer – German Y?nez (Argentina) Most Valuable Player – Gustavo Guimaraes (Brazil) Runners-up – Canada Winners – Brazil

Stern John joins TT coaching staff

Lawrence, who headed Trinidad and Tobago into the 2006 World Cup with a goal against Bahrain, has included this country’s greatest ever scorer Stern John to his backroom staff. Lawrence’s main assistants will be Arsenal legend Sol Campbell and W Connection coach Stuart Charles-Fevrier.

The appointment of Charlkes- Fevrier is an interesting one as he was one of the frontrunners for the head coaching job. The St Lucian had a spell in charge of TT from 2003-2004 when Lawrence played under him.

But it is John’s appointment which has attracted the headlines.

The ex-Sunderland forward has a mind boggling 70 goals in 115 appearances for this country, ranking him joint 12th all-time internationally, ahead of familiar names such as Portugal’s Cristiano Ronaldo (68 from 136 games), Brazil’s Romario (55 from 70 games) and France’s Thierry Henry (51 from 123 matches) to name a few.

John, who was an assistant coach at recently crowned Digicel Pro League champions Central FC this season, is ingrained in local football and was also recently playing in the Super League Championship division with Saddle Hill Hotspur.

Ross Russell has been named as the goalkeeping coach.

In somewhat of a shake up, Dr Terrence Babwah was removed as the official team doctor. Instead, Israel Dowlat will handle the medical duties for the national team alongside physiotherapist Dave Isaac.

Fitness coach Riedoh Berdien of South Africa, who held the post during the ill-fated Tom Saintfiet era, stays on in that position.

Lawrence’s complement of staff is now complete and the 42 year old coach will now turn attention to the 2018 World Cup qualifying matches against Panama and Mexico on March 24 and 28.

TT football team staff: Head Coach- Dennis Lawrence Assistant Coaches – Sulzeer “Sol” Campbell, Stuart Charles Fevrier Coach – Stern John Goalkeeper Coach – Ross Russell Fitness Conditioning Coach- Riedoh Berdien Team Doctor-Israel Dowlat Physiotherapist- Dave Isaac Massage Therapist- Saron Joseph Evaluation Science GPRS- Stephen Bradley Match Analyst- Matthew Hawkes Media Officer – Shaun Fuentes Equipment Manager- Michael Williams.

Michelle Sylvester, Nehilet Blackman have their say

Both women have years of musical experiences and accolades preceding their 2017 collaboration.

Many of us will remember Michelle as a soca sensation, the genre that birthed her first persona as a performer and songstress. In 2005, she walked away with the International Groovy Soca Monarch title for her hit “Somebody Sleeping In Your Bed” (written by Nadia Batson). Despite her years of initial success and popularity in the soca arena, Michelle says, “My soca past does not define who I am now.” Eight years ago, she gave herself over to her faith and she says within that time, her life has taken a more uplifting and positive journey. She is also a woman who values family as much as her faith, and describes herself firstly as a mother, as well as the eldest of four siblings.

Nehilet says she is a singer, songwriter, and musician who has transformed the face of the local gospel landscape as we have come to know it. “Though jamoo is the style created by my father, over the years I have added my own spice to this long-accepted and well-loved indigenous brand of gospel music,” she says proudly of the ways she has taken the late icon’s musical stylings and shaped them to reflect her own unique flair of singing and performing. Ras Shorty I is credited as the creator of the earliest forms of soca music, and was a beloved calypsonian and role model to masses of TT nationals at home and abroad.

Jamoo is an offspring of both calypso and soca, with Afro-inspired beats that may inspire you to move and dance while giving worship. Even for those who may not be religious or follow the teachings of Jehovah specifically, the genre is uplifting through its messages of faith and goodness interlaced with musical production that is reminiscent of classic local hits, both past and present.

“We Say”, the duet’s early 2017 release, keeps things in the family. Nehilet points out that production of the track was supplied by her brother, another heavy-hitter and experienced artiste on the local music scene, Isaac Blackman. In fact, most of Nehilet’s past radio hits have been produced by Isaac, a familial connection that is translated through the wholesome messages of togetherness, love, and acceptance in her lyrics. Family is never far from Nehilet’s work and she also attributes her origins in the critically acclaimed family band, The Love Circle, to the solid jamoo foundation she now has.

Michelle says the inspiration for “We Say” (which can be heard on YouTube) came simply from her enshrinement in christianity and “understanding and believing what the word of God says and experiencing simple things like peace in the midst of day-to-day trials and life as we know it.” The hook of the song preaches, “We say nobody” in homage to the “Most High”, with nobody else being deserving of “the honour and glory and praise,” Michelle elaborates.

Nehilet describes the collaboration as a powerhouse between the “Queen of gospel soca” and the “Queen of jamoo” and also references the undeniable soca influence in the song. While it is a song of praise, it is also a piece of work that can be enjoyed by anyone with an appreciation for our local genres of music and songwriting. “The blend of jamoo and soca in this collaborative effort is what the country and gospel world need at this time,” she says, referring to the current Carnival climate as well as the spike of hard times our nation has been seeing in recent months. “We Say” is a blend of Trinbagonian culture with a spiritual message of hope and reverence.

In their description for the musical offering, the ladies agree Michelle’s distinctive contralto is the perfect complement to Nehilet’s iconic and trademark soulful jamoo tone, “that at times seamlessly merge the two into one voice.” It’s true: at times, the songstress’ harmonies on the track create the audio illusion of one powerful female voice. They hope the song will have positive impact on both radio and society and remind listeners that virtuous messages of song can be presented through genres and musical influences that many attribute to more “jammin” lyrics.

They say, “The energy and vibrancy of ‘We Say’ serve as the perfect platter for the message in the lyrics: nobody and nothing compares to God!” They also boast that nothing compares to their masterpiece, and urge, “It’s here. Be ready! ‘We Say’!”

Q & A with Rhoda Bharath

She says history, literature, and writing are important reference points for her and describes her entry into the world of activism as accidental: “For about five years I taught African Literature and developed a keen sense of the problems that former colonies like ours have: ethnic tensions, class tensions, religious tensions, gender tensions.” While the average citizen of TT has experienced unfair social access, Rhoda believes as a people we are afraid to address such issues head on; “We like to avoid conflict … to remain popular and in each other’s good graces. We end up pappyshowing ourselves a lot.” It’s the extent to which we “pappyshow” ourselves that inspired her blog “The Eternal Pantomime”, personal work that came out of the social media following she gained from posts she made during the country’s State of Emergency in 2011.

“It was very clear to me during the SoE that many people didn’t realise how much of their rights were being abused by the State. I didn’t like the feeling of helplessness. I decided to empower myself by researching information and sharing with my friends and family,” she says about her posts during this time. “I became an alternative source of news and political commentary.”

Today, Rhoda speaks to WMN about “social media activism”, the accountability our citizenry must hold to our leaders, and ourselves, and what she believes is the way forward for our nation on institutional and individual levels.

Q What is the driving force of your social work?

TT is the Kingdom of the Bligh. Everybody wants a skip in the line, a free pass, a contact, a contract. We are always checking to see who we know in any situation to cut corners. That mentality has helped us to become as corrupt as we are, at every single level of our society. What I have just described is corrupt behavior. We are mired in corruption. We claim we do not want to be corrupt, but we practice it everyday from the top down and the bottom up. The thing that drives me is this: our governments won’t change until the type of electorate we have changes. If the electorate practices and condones corruption in its daily life, then it stands to reason we will knowingly elect corrupt governments. We do not have a governance problem so much as we have an electorate problem. We need citizens to be more informed about their laws and rights, and willing to do the right thing by obeying those laws and protecting those rights. Then and only then will we start voting in a different kind of government. For now, we vote on emotion, sentiment and tribe to protect our interests and access to resources. So I want a more aware and pro-active electorate.

Q You are on the side of justice, but do you believe justice is always the truth?

I don’t go about defining truth. I do encourage people to gather information and get informed. I don’t know that the truth, whatever it may be, is always just. I want informed citizens. I want rules and laws to be enforced and if they are found to be unjust, amended. I want citizens to start agitating for these things themselves instead of leaving it up to “leaders” to make decisions for them. Many of our leaders are cunning more than they are intelligent. They understand that Trinidadians are unwilling to take responsibility for their own lives. They understand that we are always looking for Messiahs and leaders. So they learn the right words, right behaviours and dress codes and present themselves to us and we lap it up and hand over power to them without thinking. We should be concerned by that.

Q Some may know you as a social media activist. Even if you don’t identify as such, what are your views on “social media activism”? Do you believe it is a necessary and effective tool of advocacy?

I’ve objected to being called an armchair journalist by the President because I am not a journalist. What I do is research. I think activism on social issues is critical for raising awareness. We call ourselves a democracy. A democracy relies on people being very active in their governance systems. It requires participation. Social media for me is a tool for getting people aware and eventually active. As with any tool it can be useful or dangerous; I think of myself as a researcher who is good at putting pressure on people in positions of power. Yes, it is activism. But I don’t run a NGO and collect funding to do it.

I think social media activism is critical for giving a voice to dispossessed people and for publicly embarrassing people into action. Trinidadians (I’m leaving Tobago out of this) respond to public embarrassment. We are not motivated by doing the right thing because it is the right thing to do. It seems that only shame and potential embarrassment works on many of us. Social media allows me to reach lots of people very quickly from my armchair at home and drum up the right quantities of embarrassment over public issues. But its use requires balance. Social media pressure can easily get out of hand and become vicious and nasty. So I try to stick to facts, evidence and publicly available information as much as possible.

Q As a citizenry, we often use humour as a mechanism of coping and processing. What do you have to say about your own sense of humour in this regard?

Humour is part of how we have dealt with oppression and hardship here. Satire, picong, double entendre are all part of how we have coped. I think humour can be useful for making heavy messages palatable. I think in our culture in Trinidad we tend to go overboard with our use of humour now. We choose to laugh at everything and forget that some issues really require seriousness.

Q What do you believe are the active ways to bring about social change, on both institutional and individual levels? What has worked in your experience?

Informed discussion and informed action. Informed there means gathering the information from the right channels and right people and then working out a plan of action that considers all of the stakeholders and possible outcomes. We need to know what kind of society we want to be. To me, TT just seems to be drifting along and accepting models that do not suit it. We are islands in the Caribbean, but we want to be like North American and Northern European countries. How we build homes, dress, eat, work and educate ourselves ignores our environment entirely. But we think it is progress because larger countries are doing it. Until we have a vision for what kind of society we want to be and figure out the steps to get there we spinning top in mud at warp speeds.

Q The word “accountability” may be lost on some of us. Can you please explain the term and why it is an integral part of leadership?

I’m beginning to think accountability has no meaning in Trinidad, just like the word vindicated has lost its meaning. When I think of accountability I want two things: to have things explained thoroughly to me up front where decisions involve the use of state resources and affect laws and rights and, secondly, to get updates throughout the lifespan of the decision. That rarely happens here. In fact, I cannot think of an instance. So accountability may well be a unicorn in this country.

Q Tell us about your recent publication “The Ten Day’s Executive”; why are our own stories and brand of storytelling important to immortalise in text?

I think TT is a fascinating place. We are full of paradoxes and ironies. So I wrote about it. Power struggles, corruption, incest, violent/abusive relationships; I put it all out there. We need to see ourselves. One of the best ways of seeing ourselves is reading about ourselves. Of course film and music are also very important but my skill is with the written word, so I write about us.

Q How do you believe each of us can be called to action and demand accountability of ourselves and others?

Trinidad has a culture where everybody believes that it is everyone else’s responsibility to do the hard things. Trash on the floor and we right next to a bin, but the janitor has to come and clean it up. Why can’t we put the trash in the bin? We have lost the ability to be pro-active and self-sufficient. Some of that I blame on the State and some on ourselves. We have become lazy, selfish and stagnant. We fail to see Trinidad as a place to invest in and have big dreams about. It is merely a place to make an income, not a place to make a living and build a life. Start thinking about the kind of life you want, the quality of life you want and work towards creating that.

Q Last words or thoughts?

We need to start wanting and expecting better for ourselves and this country. Mediocrity cannot continue to be the standard. Accepting corruption as a way of life is part of that mediocrity mentality. We need to shake that off and quick. If folks want to find me, I’m on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter as myself, no fake profiles, just Rhoda Bharath.

“The Ten Day’s Executive” is on sale at Paper Based bookshop at the Normandie Hotel, Tales N Treasures bookshop on Delhi Street, St. James, and at select Nigel Khan Booksellers branches.

Love is URGENT

He yells from wherever he is in the house,”Mummy!!! Mummy!!! Mummy!!!” to which I respond “Yes, Lord and Master?” Then he replies, “I love you.” It’s a source of humour to my friends and family who are constantly entertained by the shenanigans of my household. Sometimes I suspect he just does it because he likes to be called Lord and Master, but I thought about it some more and in all honesty, he’s right. Why shouldn’t I be in a hurry to tell someone I love them? There is no reason to delay expressing our love to those around us. In fact it’s quite the opposite, we should do so with great haste. No, this isn’t a badly timed Valentine’s Day article and that’s my point. Is it against the law to show love unless it’s Valentine’s Day? We feel the need to wait, to take those around us that we love for granted, until the acceptable day and time to say or show our love, or until it’s too late, to shed tears after the person is dead and gone. I think my six year old has the right idea.

The way the two of us carry on it’s a real love fest, we are always saying “I love you” to the other and when he’s upset or angry or just because, he will come right out and ask you for love. Then it’s cuddles and snuggles for days. I call him my Love Bug and he calls himself a Love Mosquito, we are a real riot. I know the day will come when my kisses and hugs won’t be in as high demand as they are now, but in the event anything happens to me I can close my eyes knowing my son knew just how much he was loved. I may regret not splurging on the designer dress and Louboutin’s I’ve been eyeing for the past few months but not the love and affection I’ve lavished on those around me.

I’m not advocating everyone joining hands and singing a chorus of Kumbaya, nor am I saying I love everyone and other blatant falsehoods. What I am saying is that there are people near and dear to you, those you miss and ache for when they aren’t around, the kind of people you wonder what they are doing any time you’re apart. Whether the person is a family member or a friend, a partner or a spouse, what harm is there to say I love you to the individual? As an Old Hilarian, of course, I held different views of relationships. I thought that whoever said I love you _ rst in a relationship was the loser and established a dynamic in which you would be at the mercy of the other for the duration of the pairing.

Honestly, in the shark infested dating pool this belief was useful and I dare say protected me quite effectively. The order of the day being sexting and sexploits, it’s just plain common-sense to not be putting your heart out there. Dating is very different from being in a relationship but it’s difficult to turn off the protective force _ eld and open yourself up to love and to be loved.

I am amazed at the couples that have just settled on each other and stayed together, not out of love.

I guess it makes sense, I’m getting older, I can tolerate himher, they own a house or they have a good job, we already have children together.

But these are not valid reasons to enter into a relationship and are even worse when discussing marriage. It may seem a bit idealistic but I don’t think I have the stomach for that. It never ends well. I’ve held the hand of many couples as they reached the point of dissolving their marriages and inevitably it was because they got married for the wrong reasons. Because someone looks like a good match on paper does not mean that is a reason for a relationship. The hurt feelings of the spouse that was busy loving, while the other was just there, can get really messy and the fallout from the ending of these relationships, not pretty.

As I’ve gotten older and have some life experience under my belt, I can tell you, I understand the importance of love even more now, in any kind of relationship. We Trinbagonians are an expressive people but we seem to be better with other four lettered L words, like lust and lash. We’re really good at those but at loving each other, not so much. We know how to be happy and angry but not how to love. That is one of the great things about my son being a special needs child, he lacks the capacity to be anything other than sincere. I hope that never changes. As for me, I am never too old to learn and my son is not too young to teach me something. I’ve taken his lesson to heart and will be more urgent in loving. I intend to squeeze a lifetime of loving into my days from now on, I will be giving and taking all the hugs, kisses and skinship I can. I don’t know what will take place tomorrow but I can spend today loving those I care for. So what if it’s not Valentine’s Day? Urgent By Asher Brewster Love is 7